It’s all in the name of love

It’s all in the name....?

Sweetheart, darling, honey, mummy, taata baby, ssebo... What you choose to call your better half is entirely up to you as long as it doesn't antagonise your relationship.

Love really is so strange, as Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers echoed out. While they may have resorted to referring to their lovers as “baby”, “lover boy”, many of us have gladly settled for pet names like "Taata Junior", "daddy", and "mummy".

Cultural call.

In most cases you find that when a lady/girl/woman name it, come to join in one family or making friendship/lover, you find they are using funny names, that can bring alot of romance to each other, but in my view i think people just do it for the sake of respecting others name.

I one time met some guy who told the girl friend that used to called him with his local name, i mean family name, what the guy say was so contraversal to me because you really wonder what type of relationship they are having, "Are you my mom who gave me that name?" Foolish, to hell with you.

Now, can that words really makes someone to chucked the girl? What could be the logic behind this? Send your comments about this.

"Emotions aside, pet names are engineered by the need to show a partner respect, especially in front of the children. In the setting of a typical African home, it's as rare as hen's teeth for a wife to call her husband by his name. Since endearments such as "sweetie", or "honey" may be distasteful in some families, the good old traditional ones come in handy."

Dealing with conflicts in your relationship

If you're in an honest relationship, you will have disagreements ,if you're privileged to be with someone who speaks his mind,you have tension.The issue is not whether there will be conflict but how you will deal with it. Because conflict is inevitable, work on the following steps for dealing with it;

Don't turn conflicts into acatastrophe.It doesn't mean the marriage is over.Infact,an honest encounter may have just begun,and that's a powerful starting point for a meaningful relationship.

You can't have the sweetness of romantic love without the saltiness of tension at times.It's best not to label conflicts as bad; it's part of the relationship. Talk about issues ahead of time,not just when things are heated. Rehearse it. Develop a strategy for how you will listen to each other and address the issues.

This is hard in the middle of a struggle, but later you can discuss how silly some of your fights have been.Agree to lighten things up to next time you feel the situation getting heated.Awink or aile can defuse the situation. While you read this and comment on it, you will also discover some secrets below. Read on;

Donot say you were not warned against polygamy
Polygamy is a situation where a man 'marries' more than one woman or 'wife'. This is characterised by aspects such as competition, unhappiness, hatred, envy and incidentally death among the different 'women'/'wives' seeking to attract attention of the 'husband'.

Polygamy is associated with economic constraints since a number of responsibilities is involved, like school fess for the children, the general welfare of the families to mention but afew.

Lastly, for those seeking true relationships, it is not worth to share a man for love. For the single ones out there, watch out for this trap. Once you get in, it will be very difficult getting out! Do not say that you were not warned.

Polygamy is known not only to affect the wives and numerous children, but also to tamper with ones health and general psychological well being.